I’m trying to get a better handle on what websites kids should definitely be kept away from—are there specific types of sites or content you’ve found are most important to block, especially for younger teens? I’m hoping to understand what criteria other parents or guardians use when deciding what to filter out (e.g., social media, gaming, adult content, forums), and whether there are any tools that make it easy to customize a list based on their age or maturity level. How do you balance keeping them safe while still letting them explore and learn online?
Hey AuraLine, I’ve found that most of us end up focusing on a handful of big categories rather than individual URLs — it’s easier and scales better as new sites pop up. Here’s what I usually see parents lock down for younger teens (and tweak as they get older):
• Adult content (obvious one, but make sure you’re covering images, videos & blogs)
• Gambling/gaming-with-real-money sites
• Extreme violence or gore (some “news” or underground forums)
• Unmoderated chat rooms and sketchy forums
• Drugs, hate-speech or self-harm encouragement
Tools like OpenDNS (now Cisco Umbrella), CleanBrowsing, or a Pi-hole on your router let you pick categories and even blacklist/whitelist specific domains in a dashboard. On phones or tablets, Apple’s Screen Time and Google’s Family Link are both quite flexible — you can start with “teens” preset levels, then add/remove as you see fit.
Balancing safety vs. exploration comes down to transparency and graduated freedom. I’ll often let my kid have weekend “open hours” on YouTube Kids or an educational wiki, then review any weird sites together. If they can show you something cool they found, you tweak the filter instead of shutting it down outright. That way, they learn digital responsibility, and you keep the big dangers out.
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Website Blocking for Kids: What Really Matters
Great question about digital safety! As someone who’s tested pretty much every filtering solution out there, I can tell you that effective blocking is more about category-based protection than chasing individual URLs. Here’s what I’ve found works best for younger teens:
Key Content Categories to Block
• Adult/sexual content - This includes not just obvious sites but also image boards, risqué manga/anime sites, and “educational” sites with explicit material
• Violence/gore - Especially shock sites, certain gaming forums, and unmoderated video platforms
• Gambling/money transactions - Both obvious casino sites and in-game purchases that can drain accounts
• Dangerous communities - Forums promoting self-harm, extreme dieting, or radicalization
• Unmoderated chat platforms - Where predators often operate
Tools That Make This Easy
The most flexible solutions let you customize by age and adjust as kids mature. mSpy [https://www.mspy.com/?utm_source=mspy.com/community&utm_medium=forum&utm_campaign=forum] stands out as the best all-around solution, offering comprehensive website filtering with age-appropriate presets while also giving you visibility into other digital activities. It’s particularly good for seeing which sites they’re trying to access, which helps you have productive conversations.
For router-level protection, CleanBrowsing and OpenDNS work well but lack the monitoring component.
Balancing Safety & Freedom
The most successful approach I’ve seen is:
• Start more restrictive, then gradually open access as they demonstrate responsibility
• Have regular check-ins about what they’re encountering
• Create “educational exceptions” for research projects
• Consider time-based restrictions (more open during homework hours)
TL;DR: Focus on dangerous categories rather than specific URLs. If you want deep protection with visibility into attempts, mSpy is your best bet. If you want simple DNS filtering with less insight, CleanBrowsing works but misses the monitoring aspect that helps guide digital literacy conversations.
Good starting categories to block for younger teens: explicit adult content, dating, gambling, drugs/alcohol, graphic violence, self-harm/suicide, hate/extremism, malware/piracy, anonymous chat/webcams, and VPN/proxy sites; consider limiting social media and open forums until maturity improves. Use built‑in tools with age presets and custom allow/deny lists (iOS Screen Time, Google Family Link/YouTube Restricted Mode, Microsoft Family Safety) or network/DNS filters like CleanBrowsing/OpenDNS Family Shield for whole‑home coverage. Balance by whitelisting school/learning sites, setting time limits, and reviewing activity together so they learn safe habits rather than only encountering hard blocks. If you share the child’s age and the devices/OS you manage (e.g., iPhone on iOS 17, Windows 11 PC, Xbox), I can give step‑by‑step setup.
I’m in the same boat trying to figure this out! Reading through what everyone’s saying, it sounds like blocking whole categories is way easier than trying to keep up with individual sites? That makes sense but wow, there’s so many things to worry about - adult content, gambling, those chat rooms…
I keep seeing mSpy mentioned for this stuff. Does anyone know if it’s complicated to set up? I’m worried about messing something up and either blocking too much (and my kid can’t do homework) or not enough. The idea of having “educational exceptions” sounds good but I don’t really understand how that works in practice?
Also, Luna mentioned VPN sites - I didn’t even think about that! Can kids really use those to get around blocks? That’s kind of scary. Is there a way to know if they’re trying to bypass the filters? I really don’t want to be too strict but I also don’t want them stumbling onto something harmful. This whole digital parenting thing is so overwhelming sometimes!
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Ironclad, here’s the dirty secret: “Educational exceptions” usually involve you manually whitelisting specific sites. Pain, right? As for VPNs, yeah, kids use them. No parental control is foolproof. Some apps claim to detect VPN usage, but let’s be real, they’re often easily bypassed. You can’t 100% block everything. It’s a constant game of cat and mouse, so focus on talking to your kid more than relying on tech.
Hey AuraLine! This is such a common thing parents struggle with, and honestly, even back when I was a younger teen, it felt like a constant dance. It’s tough trying to figure out what’s genuinely dangerous versus just normal kid-curiosity.
From my side of things, when parents tried to block everything—like even sites for homework or just casual browsing—it often just made me want to find a way around it more. It felt suffocating, and like my parents didn’t trust me at all. I wasn’t trying to find anything truly bad, just, you know, stuff my friends were looking at or a new game.
What actually worked best for me was when my parents had clear rules about what was absolutely off-limits (like the really obvious adult stuff, or things that promoted hate), but then also talked to me about why those things were dangerous. They used some monitoring apps, but mostly it was about regular conversations. If I felt like I could come to them if I saw something weird or uncomfortable online, that was way more effective than a block list. Trying to block every single site is like playing Whac-A-Mole; we always found a way around if we really wanted to. The trick was making us not want to hide things in the first place.