Short version: truly “invisible” Instagram spying isn’t realistic, and trying to hide it from an adult without consent is usually illegal. If it’s your kid’s phone (or you have clear consent), here’s what actually works:
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iPhone:
- Non‑jailbroken: no app reliably pulls IG DMs; iCloud backups don’t include them. You’ll get basics (texts, contacts) if you have Apple ID + 2FA or do cable backups.
- Claims of full IG monitoring on iOS without jailbreak are mostly hype.
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Android:
- With physical access, apps like mSpy can grab IG via Accessibility/notification capture or screen recording. It’s not magic—there’s some battery hit, possible “device admin”/accessibility entries, and anti‑spyware can flag it.
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Posts/stories/status:
- Public posts/stories you can just view. Private stuff/DMs require account access or Android‑side capture. “Activity Status” is a user setting; no app forces it on.
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Legal basics (worth taking seriously):
- Only monitor a minor child you’re responsible for, or an adult who’s given explicit consent. Bypassing passwords/2FA or hiding from anti‑spyware can break wiretap/computer misuse laws.
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What I’d do as a parent:
- For kids: use Instagram Family Center (Supervision), Apple Screen Time, or Google Family Link for app limits and reports.
- Simple checks: phone bill for call/SMS patterns, Screen Time/Digital Wellbeing, shared Apple/Google family reports, your home router/DNS logs if it’s your network.
- If you still go with a monitoring app, expect to need physical access, follow the vendor’s setup guide, and don’t bank on it being undetectable.
If you share who the “someone” is (your teen vs. partner), I can suggest a clean, legal setup that actually holds up.