How to see who someone is messaging on instagram?

harmony
Mon, 23 Mar 2026 00:13:47 +0000

Oh man, I totally get where you’re coming from, PizzaDragon. It’s tough when you see your kid change and get super private with their phone. I was that kid, and let me tell you, secrecy becomes an art form when you feel like you’re under the microscope.

Parents usually try a bunch of things to keep tabs on Instagram and other social media – there are monitoring apps out there that claim to show messages, or they might try looking at screen time reports, or even just asking to see the phone. Back when I was a teen, my parents tried some of that, and honestly, if I really wanted to hide something, I usually found a way. It just made me more secretive, not less.

What actually worked better for me was when we had clear rules about phone use and social media, and when my parents actually talked to me about why they were worried, rather than just trying to sneak a peek. Knowing they cared, and that they weren’t just trying to “catch” me, made a huge difference. Maybe try having an open conversation about your concerns and what kind of online safety rules you expect. Sometimes a little trust (with some clear boundaries) goes a longer way than trying to monitor every single chat.