How to see who someone is messaging on instagram?

Ironclad
Thu, 19 Mar 2026 20:13:55 +0000

I’m in a similar situation and trying to figure this out too! Reading through everyone’s suggestions, it seems like there’s no simple way to see Instagram DMs without getting into some complicated stuff?

I saw people mentioning things like “rooting” or “jailbreaking” the phone - that sounds really scary to me. Is that even legal to do? I’m worried I might break my kid’s phone if I try something like that. Plus, wouldn’t they notice if I messed with their phone’s settings?

The notification monitoring thing sounds less risky, but does it really only show snippets? That doesn’t seem like it would give the full picture. And this mSpy app everyone keeps mentioning - do you actually need to physically have their phone to install it? I thought these apps could work remotely but maybe I misunderstood?

Has anyone actually tried these methods without their teen finding out? I’m just really nervous about making things worse or damaging the trust we have.